Comments on: Ms. Flake http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/2010/02/23/ms-flake/ Working mom. Lover of Food. Sometimes behind the times. Tue, 24 Aug 2010 17:45:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Ells http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/2010/02/23/ms-flake/comment-page-1/#comment-26047 Ells Fri, 26 Feb 2010 15:37:49 +0000 http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/?p=721#comment-26047 Well written defense of mamas. While I try my hardest to be sympathetic (I'm a single gal about half of whose friends are mamas) I have friends who make time for me as a friend, and I have friends who act like they can't. I know everyone has a different situation, but I do think it's important to remember that some day your kid will be older and won't want you around all the time. It'll make a difference to the friends you have left if you took the time to make a phone call every once in awhile, or even invite them over to dinner. I find people who make the transition from "me" to "me and my family" make it happiest when they integrate their worlds. But in the end, if you're making an effort, it's sure to be noticed. And if it's not? Forget those bitches! Well written defense of mamas.

While I try my hardest to be sympathetic (I’m a single gal about half of whose friends are mamas) I have friends who make time for me as a friend, and I have friends who act like they can’t. I know everyone has a different situation, but I do think it’s important to remember that some day your kid will be older and won’t want you around all the time. It’ll make a difference to the friends you have left if you took the time to make a phone call every once in awhile, or even invite them over to dinner. I find people who make the transition from “me” to “me and my family” make it happiest when they integrate their worlds.

But in the end, if you’re making an effort, it’s sure to be noticed. And if it’s not? Forget those bitches!

]]> By: Shawn http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/2010/02/23/ms-flake/comment-page-1/#comment-25316 Shawn Tue, 23 Feb 2010 23:52:34 +0000 http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/?p=721#comment-25316 You have no idea how beautifully and truthfully written this is. I feel the same loneliness for my friends, girl time, party time, whatever. I love Sarah and I know I have become a commitment phobe because I guard her sleep time with vigor, while at the same time the cost of not doing so is even higher than missing out! I love you Shannon...because your depth and breadth of understanding and ability to communicate truth is liberating and I am grateful. Just so you know, I will never consider you a flake, rather an exceptional and well prioritized, healthy mother and wife. Be proud. You have no idea how beautifully and truthfully written this is. I feel the same loneliness for my friends, girl time, party time, whatever. I love Sarah and I know I have become a commitment phobe because I guard her sleep time with vigor, while at the same time the cost of not doing so is even higher than missing out! I love you Shannon…because your depth and breadth of understanding and ability to communicate truth is liberating and I am grateful. Just so you know, I will never consider you a flake, rather an exceptional and well prioritized, healthy mother and wife. Be proud.

]]> By: Nanette http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/2010/02/23/ms-flake/comment-page-1/#comment-25307 Nanette Tue, 23 Feb 2010 23:10:37 +0000 http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/?p=721#comment-25307 I hear ya, mama. I get nostalgic about my girls-only time and date nights, which I definitely need to make more of a priority. But I'm also already nostalgic about the ages my sweet girl has already passed. I'm so thankful for the time I've already spent with her, and I look forward to watching her continued growth. Like you, I'd rather be an awesome mother and a slightly flaky friend. I hear ya, mama. I get nostalgic about my girls-only time and date nights, which I definitely need to make more of a priority. But I’m also already nostalgic about the ages my sweet girl has already passed. I’m so thankful for the time I’ve already spent with her, and I look forward to watching her continued growth. Like you, I’d rather be an awesome mother and a slightly flaky friend.

]]> By: wendy http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/2010/02/23/ms-flake/comment-page-1/#comment-25294 wendy Tue, 23 Feb 2010 22:14:17 +0000 http://wannabehipstermom.com/today/?p=721#comment-25294 I always thought it would change as my kids got older, but now? I understand Ben, because my cranky time is from 5pm to 7pm too, especially if I'm not in my pajamas by then. I always thought it would change as my kids got older, but now? I understand Ben, because my cranky time is from 5pm to 7pm too, especially if I’m not in my pajamas by then.

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